Time to do the work when the fear feels heavier than the hope.
Until last year I’ve never thought that we could study feelings because feelings are within us and they arise based on our outside reality. But it turns out that with some effort, we can learn to feel one way or another independent from how life plays its ups and downs for us.
And trust is one of the emotions that easily weakens as we face tough situations in everyday life. It’s important to work on it because when we lose trust in life, our internal freedom gets interrupted and we live based on fear.
1. Don’t Hang up on Things
To avoid feeling disappointed over and…
Cracking the adulting code we got when we were kids.
Have you ever noticed that we all have a different view of life and beliefs about what we can or can’t do?
It’s not because we were born with different beliefs. They’re all related to what kind of environment we were raised in and the lives we’ve seen around us. Especially between the ages of 2–6, we all are in a brainwave of theta, which is a hypnotic and suggestible state.
Relax and put down that obsession about how you look .
We all want to have a healthy and long life that allows us to do things that we like as much as we can. But are anti-aging creams and bombarding ourselves with skin treatments the only way to achieve that?
I’m a strong believer that genes and anti-aging creams aren’t the only sources that lead to a long happy life with fewer wrinkles. And research supports that too. The secret in fact lies in the combination of several wellbeing hacks.
If you’re obsessing about aging and longevity, try these suggestions from the world’s oldest people and decide it for yourself…
About making peace and letting go by seeing the bigger picture.
One of the first self-development books I read was “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz. The book talks about four elements that one should incorporate into their life to make peace with things that they can’t change in an effort to pursue a happier life.
One of the agreements mentioned in the book is about not taking anything personally and this is what we’ll talk about now.
Hey you in my head, let’s take a break!
I don’t know about you but the voice in my head has always been very chatty. Sometimes my inner voice is a wise person and brings me a good perspective. Sometimes I hear fearful thoughts and a lot of what if’s. They’re either based on what I experienced in the past or what people have projected on me with their view about my life or how my life should be.
The thing is that these thoughts aren’t necessarily reflecting reality. I know it now. But if you had checked inside my head one year ago, I would have still given…
Notice the repeating patterns that don’t contribute to your well-being.
Happiness isn’t majorly attached to our external world unlike what we think. We shape our reality based on how we perceive ourselves and show up as individuals every day.
When other people are involved, it even gets more complicated to show up authentically and behave in the most beneficial way to everyone. Sometimes we even sacrifice what is essential to us to avoid conflicts.
The following behaviors are what most of us do unconsciously and don’t realize that they actually lead to our unhappiness.
1. You Might Be Over-Apologizing to Fit in
Apologizing and owning our responsibility when we make a mistake is one of the noblest things…
Two personal traits that look alike much yet so different.
Sometimes the reason why we can’t move forward in the direction we want is our attitude towards what’s happening in our lives.
At moments of disappointment or challenges, we think we’re insisting on our goal but what we do in reality is to resist the alternatives that life offers us.
If you’re not managing unexpected moments with grace or the way you handle crisis doesn’t get you where you want, you might need to embrace resilience instead of resistance.
Here is how to know the difference between these two personality traits.
1. You Change Plans When Needed
From the heart of a perfectionist Virgo
Overthinking happens even to the most mindful of us. It’s an inevitable human nature response to situations that either worry us about the future or what could have happened differently in the past. It happens but it doesn’t have to affect our well-being and our daily life.
I used to overthink a lot to an extent that I would almost lose sleep. Turning from side to side in bed, or finding myself thinking about memory while I was eating a delicious meal. Simply, I was missing out on my present time.
As you can imagine the change didn’t happen overnight…
Underrated evening time may save you from waiting for Fridays
When it comes to daily routines, we usually put all the pressure on the early bird of the day - the morning.
Although a morning routine has several benefits, it doesn’t mean that it’s the only time we can get the best of our 24 hours.
How we spend our night is a sign of how our next day will go. Remember your last hungover and how you woke up the next day. How did all the craziness set the tone for the day ahead? Did you manage to be motivated for a good productive day?
And if you’re having…
The pattern is ingrained in our heads but we can change it with baby steps
In society, from the time we step into this world, we’re in competition with others. Parents are proud of how their kids started to walk earlier than other babies. Kids are rewarded with even tiny competitions at school. We see parents being ambitious about sending their kids to hobbies that they couldn’t get into but forcing their children to embrace them. Teachers are asking what we’re going to do for a living when we don’t even know how to find our home from school and so on.
All of these may be happening to encourage kids to be better at…
