One of the first self-development books I read was “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz. The book talks about four elements that one should incorporate into their life to make peace with things that they can’t change in an effort to pursue a happier life.
One of the agreements mentioned in the book is about not taking anything personally and this is what we’ll talk about now.
I don’t know about you but the voice in my head has always been very chatty. Sometimes my inner voice is a wise person and brings me a good perspective. Sometimes I hear fearful thoughts and a lot of what if’s. They’re either based on what I experienced in the past or what people have projected on me with their view about my life or how my life should be.
The thing is that these thoughts aren’t necessarily reflecting reality. I know it now. But if you had checked inside my head one year ago, I would have still given those thoughts a chance to stay there. …
When it comes to daily routines, we usually put all the pressure on the early bird of the day - the morning.
Although a morning routine has several benefits, it doesn’t mean that it’s the only time we can get the best of our 24 hours.
How we spend our night is a sign of how our next day will go. Remember your last hungover and how you woke up the next day. How did all the craziness set the tone for the day ahead? Did you manage to be motivated for a good productive day?
And if you’re having a hard time creating a morning routine because you’re not a morning person, or if you want to simply stop waiting for weekends to live your life to the fullest, these suggestions may do wonders for you. …
In society, from the time we step into this world, we’re in competition with others. Parents are proud of how their kids started to walk earlier than other babies. Kids are rewarded with even tiny competitions at school. We see parents being ambitious about sending their kids to hobbies that they couldn’t get into but forcing their children to embrace them. Teachers are asking what we’re going to do for a living when we don’t even know how to find our home from school and so on.
All of these may be happening to encourage kids to be better at what they do, it also encourages success before happiness. …
We’re born with pure consciousness like a blank page. But as we grow up we’re shaped by our surroundings and how people around us live their life: expanded or small.
This leaves us with lots of influences from others, good or bad. But what happens then is a choice that comes after mindfulness.
Once we realize our life isn’t attracting happiness as we wish, it’s time to learn how to invite joy and happiness into our life. It requires learning and practice. It requires constant dedication to choosing mindfully what we want to feel.
Disclaimer: This article isn’t about bypassing negative thoughts but dedicating ourselves to enjoy life at max. …
Living abroad will give you the same feeling of living in your home country eventually. But what makes it special is to have a constant discovery about yourself and your expectations in a new home.
What’s the most significant and important thing about yourself?
If anyone asked you this question, what would be your answer? Perhaps the way you laugh, your eyes, the way you speak, or your personality?
Well, I always thought of an answer as deep as what I just mentioned above. But when you live abroad, something that is quite normal and usual to you in your home country can be one of your precious things. To me, it’s my name. Yes, it’s precious because you keep your name close to yourself as it suddenly reminds you of everything you’ve lived, everyone you’ve encountered before. …
Recently I’ve listened to Richard Koch’s book, The 80/20 Principle: The Secret to Success by Achieving More with Less, and I‘m amazed by its simplicity in explaining how we can apply this principle to our life.
The 80/20 principle, also known as the Pareto principle, is simply about finding out the critical 20% of causes that lead to major results in all areas of our life and focusing our energy on them.
Luckily, I’ve been already living a very minimalist life socially and mentally very similar to what the 80/20 principle aims for. …
Mindfulness can be practiced in all parts of our lives and eating is one of the most important ones as our food choices can have a huge impact on our body and mind.
But I must note that this article isn’t about body images or telling you you can lose or gain weight if you eat mindfully. It’s about you doing what is good for your body and mind, and being compassionate about your needs. …
At the beginning of 2020, I didn’t set any resolutions but had only one meaningful intention. Because my resolutions didn’t say anything about what I want to attract into my life. They were always about doing and crossing things off the list. While resolutions were a good source of motivation at the beginning, they never seemed to work out for me.
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Here we are at the end of another year. This is when we feel ready to pack old ways that don’t serve us and get excited about new things to come. We set resolutions and aim to become a brand new person. We aim to stop smoking, start going to the gym, learn a new hobby, travel at least 5 countries, and the list goes on with most likely things that are hard to stick to. They’re hard to stick to because our success to achieve them depends on our external reality. I guess, we all learned to not attach our happiness to the outside world in 2020. That’s why it’s time to set sustainable intentions instead of resolutions that will fail probably after Monday or at any opportunity when our reality is shaken. …
When we have a heartbreak people mostly tell us the truth about our pattern just then. “You deserve someone better.” “I never liked that person anyway.” “You’ll forget in time.” “Let’s go out and distract you from the negative thoughts.”
Even though these statements might be true and good intended, healing doesn’t happen with a few encouragements from loved ones overnight.
But how do we really heal?
We’re living our lives always looking for easy ways to get to the destination. Either it’s a goal, dream, or a state of being we’re always focused on arriving. But what happens is that we lose sight of the process of arrival. Without being present in the journey and always looking for easy ways to get there, we miss the magic in the journey, which is learning, taking a lesson, processing an experience, and move on in a healthy way. …