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When I was growing up, I always thought that being young is the same as being immature. The world I saw around me (excluding my family here) and on TV only seemed to value the old generation’s opinion.
This made me think that maturity goes together with wisdom. And wisdom belongs to a holy old man with a white beard that comes to bring a transformative message after experiencing all the challenges in the world.
But as I grew up and experienced the world from my own perspective, I came to the conclusion that maturity isn’t about age or education…
See where the work needs to be done.
I keep seeing this advice everywhere: “Your anxiety is lying to you.”
Although it has a fair point, it’s not the only message that our anxiety carries.
“If you take that brave step, X might happen.” “If you let your partner travel alone, they might forget about you.” “If you publish that post, people will judge you.”
These things we hear loudly in our minds might be wrong and they are. But ignoring the signs it gives us is also to lie to ourselves.
Instead, we should hear the anxiety with an open mind and see what lesson it has…
It’s no surprise the mind gets loud when we decide to move beyond our limiting beliefs
Recently I’ve received some good news about something that I’ve been working on for a long time.
I was buzzed about the possibility of attracting something new into my life. But as I was being excited about it, my mind started to get loud.
I recognized the voice immediately because we had met before. It belonged to my fears. They were reminding me that it might not work out. Although it sounds like my fears tried to protect me so I don’t fall hard, it didn’t feel like a warm place to be. …
You have everything you need inside you.
Last year I started a podcast to share meditations and mindfulness exercises. My motivation was to simply help people have harmony in their chaotic minds.
When I talked about this with a friend, she asked me what makes my podcast stand out as everybody has a podcast now.
I explained to her that I’ll share a mindfulness exercise in relation to the meditation topic we focus on in each episode. And this is not something I’ve seen in other similar podcasts.
My answer satisfied her as I gave her something that most likely didn’t exist yet, to my knowledge. But…
A kind invitation to the outside of your comfort zone.
Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself. — Rumi
In the past 2 years, I‘ve probably annoyed some friends unintentionally by becoming someone else in their eyes. The truth is I’ve always been myself deep down. But how I responded to situations and people around me has changed a lot as I developed a strong relationship with myself.
I may be feeling happy now. But the journey demanded me to take some bold steps that I was resistant to take before. …
Every emotion we long for becomes a toxic pattern in our external reality.
Last year the life coach that I was working with suggested me a mindfulness exercise. The topic was self-love. I told her that it will be easy because I truly love myself. I give myself enough love before I seek in others.
This sounded very true to me until I looked into my eyes in the mirror as she told me to do so. I had this strange feeling within me and I didn’t feel proud as I expected. It was more of sadness as I knew that I disappointed myself at self-love.
Is it possible to feel embarrassed while…
Notice the repeating patterns that don’t contribute to your well-being.
Happiness isn’t majorly attached to our external world unlike what we think. We shape our reality based on how we perceive ourselves and show up as individuals every day.
When other people are involved, it even gets more complicated to show up authentically and behave in the most beneficial way to everyone. Sometimes we even sacrifice what is essential to us to avoid conflicts.
The following behaviors are what most of us do unconsciously and don’t realize that they actually lead to our unhappiness.
1. You Might Be Over-Apologizing to Fit in
Apologizing and owning our responsibility when we make a mistake is one of the noblest things…
Two personal traits that look alike much yet so different.
Sometimes the reason why we can’t move forward in the direction we want is our attitude towards what’s happening in our lives.
At moments of disappointment or challenges, we think we’re insisting on our goal but what we do in reality is to resist the alternatives that life offers us.
If you’re not managing unexpected moments with grace or the way you handle crisis doesn’t get you where you want, you might need to embrace resilience instead of resistance.
Here is how to know the difference between these two personality traits.
1. You Change Plans When Needed
Time to do the work when the fear feels heavier than the hope.
Until last year I’ve never thought that we could study feelings because feelings are within us and they arise based on our outside reality. But it turns out that with some effort, we can learn to feel one way or another independent from how life plays its ups and downs for us.
And trust is one of the emotions that easily weakens as we face tough situations in everyday life. It’s important to work on it because when we lose trust in life, our internal freedom gets interrupted and we live based on fear.
1. Don’t Hang up on Things
To avoid feeling disappointed over and…
Cracking the adulting code we got when we were kids.
Have you ever noticed that we all have a different view of life and beliefs about what we can or can’t do?
It’s not because we were born with different beliefs. They’re all related to what kind of environment we were raised in and the lives we’ve seen around us. Especially between the ages of 2–6, we all are in a brainwave of theta, which is a hypnotic and suggestible state.
