The Art of Letting Go

What is this “let it go” trend? Should I leave it all to the universe? Will it happen if I just wish for it and go with the flow?

So many assumptions on letting go.

But what is it actually?

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There are many self-help accounts on social media that share quotes on letting go. But I can’t help wondering what people take on from ‘let it go.’ It’s a concept that can be misunderstood easily by a person who is not open to see their part in the story. If you’re not sure whether you’re on track with the actual reference of this word, keep on reading.

See What Comes up as it is And Let It Go

Everything that annoys us in our head is a mirror to our triggers. When we are uncomfortable by someone sharing a photo wearing a bikini this probably shows we have confidence issues about our body. When we are triggered by someone’s criticism about our life this probably shows we’re not ready to hear different opinions.

But this doesn’t mean we cannot have opinions or we have to like everything. We just need to see the bigger picture before we let those thoughts have space in our heads.

When I teach meditation I usually instruct practitioners to let go of their thoughts and feelings when they show up in their minds. But I also add that they need to acknowledge those distractions’ existence. Otherwise, it’s ignoring everything that is bugging us in our heads. Ignoring them is good in the short term because we forget about them. But it doesn’t make them go forever.

What makes them go is to see those triggers purely and release the attachment to them. Otherwise, they will only damage our mental health.

Wake up! You Can’t Control Everything

If you think you can control everything in your life, I don’t blame you. I’ve fallen in that trap before. I thought I had control over more things in my life than I actually did.

Plans can go out of the way very simple. You thought you would have a great lunch but oops! the bus came late and you missed the lunch date. You had an unexpected phone call and couldn’t manage the work you planned that day.

Let go of the thought that we can control everything in life. We are only one part of the story. Everything is somehow connected to one another. We get a job because someone has to leave that job. They have to leave that job because their partner is moving into another town. And the story goes on and on.

But I don’t mean we shouldn’t work for whatever wish we have and leave it all to the universe. Don’t confuse it with giving up. Let go is doing your best and releasing the attachment to the outcome. Welcome whatever shows up in your life. They may hurt but if you can learn to let go, you will take a lesson out of them and grow.

“You only have to be willing to open your heart in the face of anything and everything and permit the purification process to take place. When you do this, the first thing you’ll see is that situations will unfold what hit your stuff. But in truth, that’s exactly what has been happening your entire life. The only difference is that now you see it as a good thing because it’s an opportunity to let go.” ¹(Singer, 2007, 74)

Life is simply about moving forward despite the struggles. If we want to make the best out of this lifetime, we have to learn to let go and flow in the process.

Reference list:

¹Singer, Michael A., 2007. The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself. CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.