I’ve been doing a lot of inner work since last year and I’m proud to say that I’ve had some transformation within myself. Perhaps they’re not visible to others. Perhaps others see the change in me. But through this journey, my likes changed. I’ve changed my views about how my life should go. My reactions turned into mindful responses. And all in all I sometimes seem very positive to people who don’t know that I experience all feelings and work on them internally.
If you’re doing inner work and being mindful about your thinking patterns and shedding the layers that you’ve collected since childhood, you’ll have some changes too. And the change will trigger people who aren’t content about the way you’re empowered. It’ll trigger people who benefited from the old ways you acted. But you know what…
We Are Allowed to Change
While people can leave the love of their life and become strangers with them, I see they react to changes within someone or in their behaviors too radically.
We don’t have to be the same person as yesterday. We don’t have to dislike summer/winter forever. We don’t have to become friends with some people forever. We don’t have to agree on something that we did yesterday.
When our opinion or the way we change bothers someone, it’s because it triggers a feeling within them. When you don’t react the same way as they do and handle the same challenging situation with a calmer tone while they freak out, they feel attacked. But that’s fine. We don’t have to make everyone happy. We don’t have to behave in a certain way to make others comfortable within our company. Stay true to yourself. Within the respectful manners to others, of course. Every time we sacrifice ourselves to make others feel good, we betray our souls. You matter as much as others do.
We Don’t Live For Others
We’re most of the time not stepping out of our comfort zone because we’re worried about how others will perceive us. We’re afraid of others’ comments. We’re afraid that they’ll think that a shy person who freaked out about small things last year behaves so bravely and follows their heart. We’re afraid of shame and vulnerability.
But if we step back, we can see that whatever we do, people will always talk if it’s in their nature. They’ll talk about our successes. They’ll talk about our failures. They’ll be inspired by us but never mention it. They’ll be proud of us and support us when we think they haven’t seen us.
This life is for us to live. It’s unique to each of us. I have a twin sister and we live different lives. Don’t expect each life to be the same and don’t fall in the beliefs that other people project onto you. Judge their opinion and see what reflects the truth. But if you believe it’s not you, follow what thrives you.
Before You Go
Allow yourself to become the person you wish. You’re enough today. You were enough yesterday. You’ll be enough tomorrow.
With failures and successes, I wouldn’t trade myself with someone else. Live your life so true to your being that you accept yourself with all aspects.
The path to growth is hidden in the adjustments we make to become the future version of ourselves.